conflict resolution

you ever met a person who said,
“actually i’m great with confrontation?"
hell no, everyone is like “i’m really bad
with confrontation and its scary.”

i think confrontation is a necessary evil,
and the sooner you acknowledge that the sooner
you can get down to getting real value out of
raising your concerns to someone. i fear that what
happens to people who claim to be “bad” with
confrontation is that they avoid it when in reality
it’s a valuable social tool for setting up
boundaries that you and another party respect mutually.

which is to say, when confrontation is avoided,
eventually someone needs to step in to reach
conflict resolution in some capacity if the
relationship is to be maintained or recovered.

now that’s some difficult shit, is being
a conflict resolver. compromise between humans
is all we can do when we don’t understand one another,
but it takes two to acknowledge when their differences
aren’t worth the value of the relationship they have.

it would be nice if we could all reach that level
of understanding with one another: to understand that
there will always be things we can’t understand.

thanks for reading today’s post.
let’s all just get along now, shall we?